Discover Your Partner’s Ring Size Without Them Finding Out

Discover Your Partner’s Ring Size Without Them Finding Out

If you have finally decided to pop the question, you are going to need a ring. But how do you find out what your partner’s ring size is?

This is a common question amongst people who have decided they want to spend their lives with their partners.

Here are a few tips that will guide you through this exciting process.

  • It’s a Subtle Art

If you want the proposal to be a surprise, you will need to find a subtle way to find your partner’s ring size. One way to do this is to pretend you want to buy a ring for your mother, aunt, or sister. Just make sure whoever you choose has hands of a similar size. Ask them to help you with the purchase process by trying on rings. This is a roundabout way to get an idea of average ring size.

  • Use an Existing Ring

If your partner already wears rings, find one that they wear on their ring finger or a similar size finger. By bringing the ring in to a jeweller, it is possible to come up with a size approximation. You might just want to make sure they won’t notice the missing ring too easily.

  • Ask Someone They are Close To

If one of the above methods don’t work, you can always ask a close friend. Many times, friends or family members already know this information. If someone doesn’t know, at least they can casually work the ring size question into conversation without it seeming suspicious. Another way to get an estimate is to have your partner try on a friend’s ring.

  • Sketch It

If you feel that your partner would notice one of their rings is missing, you can always trace the inside and outside of the ring. Create several traces to ensure your jeweller has the best chance of figuring out the diameter of the ring.

  • Just Ask

If these tactics prove to be more difficult than you thought, you can always ask your partner outright. This is not unusual for couples who have been discussing marriage for quite some time. Plus, even if your partner knows you are ring shopping, it doesn’t mean they know when to expect the proposal.

What to Keep in Mind When Shopping for an Engagement Ring

Whether you are shopping for an engagement ring or having one made, keep in mind that the final size of the ring might be slightly off. Unless you ask your partner about the size directly, of course.

The average ring size for women is anything between 5 and 7, and 10 for men.

It’s always recommended that you have the most accurate size estimate possible if you are designing a custom piece though. If anything, rather opt for a slightly larger size if you are unsure. It is easier to make a ring smaller rather than bigger.

You should also keep in mind that a dominant hand tends to be slightly larger, so make sure you are measuring the left hand.

The Temporary Setting Alternative

If you simply don’t want to take a chance, there is always the option of proposing with a temporary setting. After the big moment, you can bring your partner in for a custom fitting, ensuring the engagement ring fits as it should.

You could also use this as an opportunity to make sure your partner is happy with the design you have in mind.

Not all jewellers offer the option of a temporary setting, so you may need to ask around. Custom jewellery designers are more likely to offer this option.